Why does our puppy seem to like me better than my husband? How can we fix it?

Dogs Why does our puppy seem to like me better than my husband? How can we fix it?, We adopted a puppy last Thursday because my husband, who is military, had a 4 day weekend. I'm a teacher who is off summers, so I was home too. We ...


  #1  
10-08-08, 06:46
  Why does our puppy seem to like me better than my husband? How can we fix it?
We adopted a puppy last Thursday because my husband, who is military, had a 4 day weekend. I'm a teacher who is off summers, so I was home too. We figured it would give us both time to bond with the dog.

In the morning, hubby takes the dog out of his crate and outside. He then feeds and walks him. When we're home, hubby often gets on the floor and tries to play with and pet the dog.

However, our puppy seems to gravitate more toward me. I don't know why. My husband does do more of the disciplining, but that's because we wanted to make it clear that hubby is the Alpha Male.

The dog can be totally engaged with my husband, but if I get up and leave the room, he stops and follows me

Hubby is hurt. How do we fix it?
EDIT: The dog is about nine months old. I play with and feed him too. But mostly, I'm sitting around or doing chores throughout the day. So I don't think I'm that interesting or interacting with him more. My husband does NOT hit or abuse him. When he disciplines him, he puts him in his crate gently for 5 - 10 minutes.


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  #2  
10-08-08, 06:54
 
thats funny i adopted a female puppy and she loves my boyfriend way more.... :S
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  #3  
10-08-08, 07:03
 
i think the puppy thinks your his mummy... You cant change that, the dog just feels like being with you all the time and i know lots of dog owners, a dog will always have a favourite owner he or she will follow most. My boyfriends dog wont even go out without his mother holding the leash!
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10-08-08, 08:59
 
if the puppy is male then its just natural for it to gravitate more towards a female. it doesn't mean that the puppy doesn't like your hubby he just wants a mother like figure.
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  #5  
10-08-08, 09:29
 
This is long but I think it will help you.

First, he is still in need of a mom. You are mom. You smell like a female, and females are safety zones for him, and it is in the nature of male puppies to be absolutely subservient to dominant males, and also to be a little wary of him.

If your husband seriously wants to bond with your puppy, and can let go of the disciplining a little bit, have hubby carry your puppy around with him everywhere. You don't say what kind of dog you have or what size he is but this worked for my hubby. Our little guy went everywhere with him the first six months of his life. But, I am still mom, and my boy always follows me around, right on my heels. He watches me put on make up every morning, sleeps at my feet or my side, and is never more than a few feet from me, unless hubby calls him to him. Females like males.

Puppies and dogs are very much like children. Your puppy will want to roughhouse with your hubby when he is older, and right now is probably teething, and being housebroken, and learning his new surroundings, and where to sleep and what to play with and when it's time to eat. That's a lot for a litle guy in just a week.

Bonding doesn't happen instantly and right now, since you are mom, you are his safety zone. So be that for him.

Some of the best advice I ever got was from a breeder, about this subject. When he comes to you out of fear or what you think might be fear of hubby, don't give him back to hubby right away, that's the worst thing you could do. Pick him up and hold him tightly in your arms until you feel him relax and then invite hubby over to pet him and cuddle him, all while the puppy is still in your arms. When the puppy relaxes in your arms, while hubby is still petting him, transfer the puppy into hubby's arms and let hubby do the holding and squeezing for a few minutes. This will tell puppy that both of you are there to protect him and that will start a real bonding process for you.
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  #6  
10-08-08, 12:55
 
Well sometimes dogs gravitate to just one person better than others. Maybe hes become protective of you and wants to make sure you don't get "hurt" in the other room. Or he maybe he's adventurous and thinks something is going to happen in the other room more fun then playing. Try making him do commands, like stay.
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  #7  
10-08-08, 15:51
 
some dogs prefer females. you really cant "fix" it. its not really a problem. dogs prefer people just like we prefer people. we like certain people more than others its just the facts of life, and that extends to our animals. all i can say is just deal.
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  #8  
10-08-08, 15:53
 
The pup doesn't want to socialize with the Alpha in your household. The pup sees you as less threatening.

Have you ever heard the saying, "Dogs choose you, you don't choose them."

Hubby will be gone shortly & it will be just you & the pup. When hubby gets back he will have a dog & not a puppy to get to know all over again. I wouldn't worry about it now. Wait until hubby gets home for good to worry about it. He will be a stranger to the dog then.

It takes more than 4 days to bond with a pup. Your problems will be different when hubby get home to stay.

Edit:

The pup does not understand the cage as being corrected.

http://dir.yahoo.com/Science/Biology/Zoology/Animals__Insects__and_Pets/Mammals/Dogs/Behavior/?skw=how+to+correct+a+dog+behavior

http://www.askthedogtrainer.com/
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  #9  
10-08-08, 16:07
 
Have your husband give the pup some treats that might help, or only have him feed the dog until he warms up to him more
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  #10  
10-08-08, 20:05
 
A dog is normally more likely to be closer to a woman than a man but when that puppy gets to be older and wants to play more than be loved he will start to follow Dad around! Dogs (in a way) are a lot like children to where when their babies they want mommy and when their older daddy is so much cooler! You should enjoy the love you get now!
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  #11  
11-08-08, 02:24
 
A ton of things could explain why the puppy seems to like you more than your husband. He might have been abused previously by a man, and is therefore scared of them. He might be breed-disposed to select one member of the household and stick to them like glue (Greyhounds and Chows are especially well known to do this). It might be because your husband is a male and thus the male puppy would rather spend time with you, a female who does not challenge his position.

Or maybe you smell better to him, or maybe there was a bird outside the window next to you that looked cool, or the sprinkler was on in the neighbor's yard four houses down... basically what I'm getting at is that with a dog, it could be anything. His voice, his hair, his smell, his sunglasses, the way he walks... dogs pick up on so much more than we do, and any little thing about your husband could have set off the puppy and made him prefer you.

You can try putting the puppy on a leash and "tethering" him to your husband - that is, loop the latch end of the leash through the handle around one of his belt loops, then clip the leash onto puppy's collar. That way the puppy stays with him wherever he goes, and learns to bond with him. You could also try picking up some of the disciplinary jobs so that it doesn't seem like your husband in particular is a "bad guy".

Good luck!
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  #12  
11-08-08, 05:48
 
Was the dog previously raised by a woman? That can make a big difference.

Continue to have your hubby take care of the dog as much as possible. Treats should come from your hubby.

Also, be patient, the dog has a lot to adjust to. When he is more comfortable, things will relax some.
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  #13  
11-08-08, 14:06
 
Well, if you're aloof and don't pay the dog much attention, you're partly mimicing the behaviour of an alpha dog, which will make the dog want to appease and please you. Also remember that in the dog world, females are generally higher ranking than males.

Another issue can be the disciplining. How does your husband discipline the dog? All depending the dog, its breed and personality, it might not be responding the way you want it regarding the discipline - even if the method at first seems to work.

Also, remember most dogs are not ladder-climbers and are perfectly capable of distinguishing between dogs and humans. The alpha issue is often hugely overrated, as is the belief that you need to dominate your dog and let it know you're alpha through a variety of handling methods. Alpha dogs are alpha dogs not because they force their position onto the other dogs, or because they are the physically strongest or even the best hunters, but because they're made of the best leadership material. They're smart, intelligent, calm, consequent and fair. If your husband is pushing the dog regarding the alpha issue with an average pet dog, it might become insecure and resentful toward him, and instinctively gravitate towards the person it feels is the true alpha and not just a bully.
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  #14  
11-08-08, 19:15
 
dogs are like humans, they just pick favorites sometims.
Usually their favorite is the one who pays them the most attention, FEEDS THEM, and plays ball with them etc.

i dont think there really is anything you can do to change that
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  #15  
12-08-08, 16:21
 
well male dogs are usually more partial to females and vice versa. i really don't think there is anything to change this as it is just the dog's natual behavior.
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